I travelled nearly halfway across the country last week to sit on the end of a wooden bench in a shoe-scuffed middle school gym alongside a dozen middle school girls basketball players.
Am I crazy?
I should start by being honest; while I loved the sport, I was never that good of a player. My high school teammates can attest to that.
I fouled a lot.
For those of you who don’t watch basketball, this essentially means I hit people.
I think it was because I was angry. Probably less so at the person I was tackling and more so at myself. Why was making my body do what I saw so clearly in my brain that difficult?
My younger sister was and is the better athlete, with multiple knee surgeries that I believe earn her the title permanently.
She’s a certified coach and the coach that extended an invitation for me to join the elite ranks of middle school coaches last winter.
For starters, my team pep talks in high school were a thing of legends. Certainly they must discuss them still today.
More notably, the team voted me “most inspirational” all 4 years of high school. That includes the year I quit the season early to be in a musical.
I’d like to think that these very noteworthy achievements are the reason my sister felt I deserved to join her team.
Though I kid, I did give a lot of pep talks last winter during my inaugural season as assistant coach.
There’s nothing like funneling more emotion into an already emotionally-charged middle school sporting event.
After rejoining the bench this last week, I quickly fell back into my old role, my pep talk spirit still perfectly intact, seemingly untamed by my newfound East Coast sensibilities.
“That isn’t an injury,” I proclaimed to the player who had limped off the court with a painful-looking floor burn that covered half her lower leg. “That’s a battle scar!”
“And what do you do when someone gives you a battle scar?!” I barreled on. She looked up at me with wide watery eyes, sniffling, gasping, tears streaming.
“You score on them!!” I roared.
Unexpected experiences are the most delightful thing, aren’t they though?
If I had my way, I’d never sign up for them. Yet, these experiences come charging at me.
Thank God, too, because I can’t imagine how dull my life would be otherwise.
Coaching is Exhibit A. While on paper or in the summary version I’ll give folks in Lancaster, it may seem obscure to travel so far for something so trivial, I beg to differ.
This was an experience I value, then and now, because it was an experience I didn’t know I could have. It was an experience offered graciously by someone else and shared with a mighty fine group of ladies.
I recently took a personality test that told me that my personality type, when at its healthiest, is self-creative, “able to transform all their experiences into something valuable.”
I like to think that, at least sometimes, this is true. Today’s post is a good example. Here’s an unlikely experience I found value in. Enough value, in part, to travel 500 miles westward in hopes to hold onto it, to relive it again.
Today, though, I also acknowledge a new challenge. This is one I have to keep pushing myself on–and maybe you do, too.
The challenge of letting go of the past is something my personality type isn’t so keen at, so say the results.
I’m severely sentimental, what can I say.
However, It’s time to let other experiences come at me and to embrace them.
I guess a starting point will be my new job. For those of you trying to keep tabs on me, you may have noticed I joined the staff at PRiMA. I’m passionate about this company because they have ‘skin in the game’ (sorry, couldn’t help myself) trying to ‘cultivate culture’–to use theatre as a way to create lasting experiences that enrich the community and, simply, inspire.
They’re (we’re) looking forward, which I think is pretty neat and, actually, super ambitious.
So hey, if you get the chance to coach a middle school sports team, I triple dare you to do it. Go out there and yell your lungs out, and come back and realize that this little thing was the best thing.
…and that now it’s time to move forward.